Reading this question the first idea that came to me is that it would be impossible. After all, few people are willing to abstain from social networks. As bad as the effects of their use are (addiction, procrastination, spreading of
and the anguish of feeling inferior to others – who seem to succeed in love, work and are still beautiful), social networks are still an effective means of communication, of maintaining ties, they work well for sending notices to groups and for spreading events. Not to mention they help us remember important dates (laughs).
So how to free us from beauty patterns if we are bombarded every day by social network images
without leaving the social networks?
First you should ask yourself
If you don’t know why, you’re hardly going to act to get it.
Here are some reasons:
We can’t believe the images on social networks because so many are edited
There are several mobile applications that “beautify” your photo in a few minutes. Instagram and Facebook already offer filters just before you post anything. Embellishment” technology has arrived in the videos as well. Have you seen how amazing Snapchat filters are? Being so easy to edit I’d say it’s rarer to find an unedited image on social networks.
2. In addition to editing there’s a lot of light play and use of favorable poses. Try searching for #posedvsreality and #posedvsrelaxed hashtags in Instagram. There are several images like the one below.
3. The calls #posedvsrelaxed
s too), seem to be the successful model to follow: beautiful, happy, full of energy, discipline and gain many gifts… what a wonder, right?
I’ve met some fitness muses in person, they live stuck to their cell phones, they don’t post spontaneously but what the sponsors ask for, they receive several hate messages every day, they don’t know who is a real friend, few really earn significant money from it and several don’t talk about the plastic surgeries they do or the drugs they take.
4. Dissatisfaction sells!
It sells food, cosmetics, modeling belts, clothes, accessories, gadgets, gym/gymnasium plans, beauty clinic packages, diet magazines, books, slimming shakes, coaching and it is also a space for charlatanism. If taking care is good and everyone needs to take care of themselves, but the more the person feels dissatisfied with their appearance, the more willing to
spend without thinking
she will be. So the image of a sculptural body with perfect skin without wrinkles or spots is a trigger for a person to believe they need to spend thousands of dollars on a certain treatment.
5. 5. Several psychological disorders are aggravated by the feeling of inferiority when comparing one’s own life with those of others. Some examples are eating disorders (anorexia, bulimia, vigorexia), anxiety and depression.
6. Dissatisfaction with appearance makes people seriously risk their health. Surgeries in clandestine clinics, illegal drugs that promise to lose weight or increase muscle mass, very restrictive diets that cause malnutrition, abusive use of laxatives and diuretics … it has been increasingly common news of tragedies in the name of appearance.
Convinced that you need to free yourself of beauty standards, some actions to be taken are:
Clean up your social networks: stop following any profile that makes you feel less. If it’s from a friend, there’s the option “mute posts” in Instagram or “stop following” on Facebook, you don’t have to undo the friendship and the person won’t even know you don’t get their posts anymore.
Follow profiles that feed self-esteem and make you feel good in your body the way you are today. I recommend
Look more at real life and less at the screens: everyone has physical imperfections, it is normal. By looking less at the canvases and more at real life, you will stop giving so much importance to imperfections and realize that we are much more than images.
Re-signify: see the answers from
to the question
What you hate can become a charm, a trademark, something with positive meaning.
Seek new forms of entertainment. The Internet is accessible and full of options, you don’t have to be alone on social networks. But there are other things accessible and enjoyable too: music, books, a walk in the park, games, a café with a loved one, a fancy bath, creating or enjoying art in general.