There are an infinite number of answers and reasons to explain this phenomenon. The most basic ones:
Very good personal hygiene
An attractive personal clothing style
An attractive lifestyle.
I have known a couple of philandering men, who have had a number of women, have ruined marriages, women who have fought over them, etc.
What element do they have in common?
They have a lot of money and many topics of conversation.
I’m going to go deeper, in the monetary aspect it’s no surprise if you want to go out with women, even if it’s only one woman, you need money and plenty of it. To pay for outings, to give attention, to make gifts, etc.
You need money, but you also need social status symbols. Whether it’s a car, a trip to the beach once a month, use/rent of a yacht, etc
You must have money, even to invite her for a coffee like an all-expense paid trip to a Caribbean island. This is going to sound ugly but… The more attractive and higher class the woman is the more money power you need.
On the other hand, the topics of conversation. These are people who can talk about anything, absolutely anything. They can talk about the latest book, like the latest movie, like Haneke’s movies, physics, technology, etc.
And not only can they talk about anything, but they can talk in style. They can talk about any topic in an interesting way, which makes them curious and eager to listen.
They also know how and when to use humor.
They’re not clowns but they’re not boring college professors either
A lot of money and a lot of talking points.
There are also other elements, characteristics that they have in common and I have seen that they have worked when it comes to conquering many girls.
They don’t have the fear of rejection and they don’t see the no as something catastrophic
When they see a woman they find attractive, they go after her. But they’re prepared to be rejected. The harsh reality is that out of 10 attempts in 9 they will be rejected. And they don’t really care, they take no for an answer and move on.
They always have the initiative to approach any woman expecting a no. When they are rejected they back off and continue as if nothing had happened.
They try and try until they get a yes.
They know how to insist without being impertinent
When they want to stay with a woman who has rejected them. They don’t do it right away, they wait a while. They try to have casual conversations, showing their attractiveness and eventually try again.
If it doesn’t work, they wait a while and try again.
They are leaders
Both characters I mention are always looking to be leaders in their branches/companies. One is a manager and the other one went from manager to owner of his own company.
They always try to be in positions of command and leadership. They always seek to be at the top of the social hierarchy. And believe me, being a leader is very attractive.
Very important, they are very active people. They always do interesting things such as: martial arts, cooking, mountaineering, play musical instruments (one the guitar and the other the drums), go to the beach and rent yachts, travel to a different country every year, go to the gym, go to the best clubs, have remodeled cars, are excellent dancers, etc
They are careful with their reputation, they never brag about their conquests and their womanizing life. You can get drunk with them and they’ll never tell you about their conquests.
They let their lovers do them, it is the women who have conquered that boast of having been with them. Ironically that makes them become a competition between women they know to sleep with them.
In the circles they inhabit, there are women who take it as their personal mission to have sex with them.
In essence, learn to be a very good lover and keep your mouth shut. Your conquests will get you free publicity.
They’re men with initiative. The initiative is demonstrated from the moment of beginning the contact with the girl, initiative to have plans, initiative at the time to help the girl, to guess that things it likes and that it does not like to the girls with whom it goes out, etc.
Those are the most important characteristics that I managed to identify. That they serve you.